1. Breathe deeply

This simple breathing technique reconnects you to your five senses, helping you get centered, relaxed, and grounded enough to go deeper.

Start by taking a big breath and allow it to fill you from your genitals to the top of your head. Pay attention to your inhalation, and then slowly exhale. Repeat this 2-3x. Notice how your body feels and how your senses of smell, touch, and hearing are different at the end of the breath. You may feel happier, lighter, and have the sense of taking up more space in the room.

Next, take a small breath, repeat that 2x . Notice how small you feel when you breathe shallowly. Are you hunched over, with tight shoulders? Simply observing the breath, even in mundane moments, can teach us much about how it corresponds with our emotional state.

When you’re feeling really good, you’ll probably notice that you are breathing deeply and more slowly. This is something you can test right now, wherever you are.

One of the exercises that I do with my clients involves matching our breath in order to make a connection, especially in the first session or whenever we don’t feel particularly connected. This doesn’t have to be in a sexual context, but it can definitely deepen a sexual connection.