https://www.brendakipling.com/blog daily 0.75 2024-12-07 https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/masturbation monthly 0.5 2024-05-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/f159b97c-03f8-4a9d-9e36-57b64a5e641d/woman-g77f448549_1920.jpg Blog - Can Masturbation actually be USEFUL? Okay, if I am being honest, I am not a huge fan of masturbation. Why? Because I think most people are just wasting that life force energy on a 2-minute release. I would bet that 90%+ of masturbation is attached directly to porn, which in my opinion is the antithesis of success. If you are watching porn regularly, you are not living up to your true potential. If you know me at all, you know I am prepared for the porn obsessed to come for me on that statement, and I don’t care. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/feelings monthly 0.5 2024-05-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1681167766518-ZM87DTZRWPZGQS5V6QZN/unsplash-image-0ZQ8vojHNuc.jpg Blog - Should we choose a partner based on feelings? Check out my first audio post by clicking play above. Let me know what you think https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/faq monthly 0.5 2022-12-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/b93c3031-0920-4b55-9551-0d1e57b7ed45/seek-gcd8c85147_1280.jpg Blog - Answering Your Questions from Instagram I posted a story a couple weeks ago allowing you to ask any question. I also took questions from prior messages. If I didn’t answer them here, then either they are intelligent enough and thoughtful enough to deserve a post of their own, or they are stupid. Who said there are no stupid questions??? https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/autopilot monthly 0.5 2024-05-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/56dc7ff5-a913-4606-8e82-4fc3c075470d/IBD_1167.jpg Blog - Sex on Autopilot-Please stop Can I predict, almost exactly, the order in which sex proceeds in your relationship? Probably. I have done this with many, many, many clients and for some reason they seem surprised every time. Then when they really think about it, they realize it has been that way since they were young. (with mild variations) I have worked with hundreds of clients, both male and female, and many are dealing with the same issues. I’m not really here to talk about those issues as much as I am here to talk about this mindless auto pilot we are all on with regard to sex. Even I fall into it occasionally when I am exhausted with trying to find partners who can grasp the concept of truly connected sex. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/masculine monthly 0.5 2024-05-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/8be4f98d-02ba-42f4-a619-e2825d990729/bouquet-gb3bc00204_1920.jpg Blog - Masculinity Ready for an unpopular opinion? If you follow me, you are used to it. Masculinity is NOT toxic and if I hear the phrase toxic masculinity one more time, I think I am going to scream. It took me so long to name this post, I tried so many combinations. I could not even bring myself to put the word toxic in the title next to the word Masculine. Wikipedia defines toxic masculinity this way: adherence to traditional male gender roles that consequently stigmatize and limit the emotions boys and men may comfortably express while elevating other emotions such as anger. It is marked by economic, political, and social expectations that men seek and achieve dominance (the " alpha male "). Keep in mind that anyone can contribute to Wikipedia, so it is not an indication of accuracy, but more of popular opinion. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/lunar-eclipse-ritual monthly 0.5 2022-11-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753203900-LQUQROJ8W6LB3MM9YEVW/total-lunar-eclipse-gcc9dfc617_1920.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - This Full Lunar Eclipse in Taurus during Scorpio season is an opportunity for major transformation. I am not an astrologer, but I do pay attention to what is happening in the sky because as soon as I started working with the energy of the moon on weekly and monthly basis, I started to see my life change dramatically. This is not some far-fetched, woo-woo concept. Farmers, fisherman, and hunters have used it for centuries. Since I started to use an astrologer in my business, my business changed dramatically, and my personal life changed for the better as well. I wish I could say that I am dedicated and knowledgeable in this area, but I am not. It is my goal in 2023 to take this part of my spiritual practice to the next level and see what else is possible with this energy. What I do know is energy. I have studied and worked with energy for most of my adult life. I can feel and see the movement of energy in myself and others. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753226276-G8ICRR2DSDPVBBD5QKZH/meditation-g9afb0448c_1920.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - I will give you a basic idea of the structure of my Eclipse session. What will I personally do for myself? I don’t do all of this on every full moon. This is a special occasion. This is a powerful lunation that won’t happen again for 3 years. This is a chance to change my life so I will use all my magical tools. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753250457-13G83S55OMQ4Z4TZL3W6/woman-g4a43746e8_1920.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - Step 1: Cleanse- do an energetic cleanse to rid yourself of the obvious shitty energy so you are more clear and less foggy. Idea- A Spiritual bath- This also connects to our Water element, so we are already bringing the elements in. Also note the opportunity to balance the water chakras as well. Spiritual bath- This can be as simple as just water in a tub with intention (or shower if you don’t have a bath). You can also use any number of additional elements to add to the bath. This post will go on forever if I explain everything so feel free to Google ideas. I use Epsom salt (healing and cleaning at the same time), essential oils that I put into the salt before adding to the bath, (the oils depend on the intentions), I have a purification body wash that I buy from Art of the Root that I use after every session and in the shower before every spiritual bath. Young Living has Purification oil. I make my own sugar scrubs (if you want a recipe posted, just message me). I light candles (element of fire), for this I use white for purification. I set an intention to neutralize and release the energy that doesn’t belong to me. (I do a quick shower before with the body wash to remove obvious crap and actual grime), then I do a quick shower rinse after so that I can really visualize everything washing away. The water in the tub really synchronizes my energy, maybe because I am a water sign (scorpio). https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753271158-8TMUMHVJNFGKU9RWUUER/tree.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - Step 2: Grounding – Get yourself connected to the earth Idea- Tree of Life Meditation – This brings in an Earth element and note the connection to the earth chakras Tree of Life Meditation- Stand up and place your feet flat on the floor. Take a moment to notice if you’re leaning forward, backward, or to one side or the other, and then consciously balance your energy, centering your weight and beginning to tune into the earth beneath your feet. Once you’re balanced, standing there with your feet flat on the ground, close your eyes, and imagine that you’re a tree. Imagine you’re a giant tree, standing tall, completely hollow on the inside, clear of thought, worry, or tension. Imagine you’re reaching up towards the light with your branches, letting the light shine down and through your entire being. Next imagine you have roots, reaching way down through the ground towards the earth, firmly grounding you in this present moment. Feel your energy flowing down like tree roots grounding you to the earth and flowing all the way down to the center of the earth. Feel your energy reaching down with tree roots, through layers of earth, and bedrock, and sediment, past rocks and pebbles, other roots, worms and bugs, reaching down, grounding you in this present moment. Feel your energy fully grounded, and simultaneously feel yourself reaching up towards the sky, reaching up towards the light, your branches reaching up and out, absorbing the sunlight. Feel yourself soaking up and absorbing pure source light, filling you, filling your body, filling your tree trunk with light. In this moment let yourself simply be balanced between the sky and the earth. Just being, breathing and observing the world around you. Feel your connection with all the other trees in the forest, with the birds, with the air, with the sky. You are one with it. You are one with the Divine, one with the Earth, one with Nature, one with All That Is. Breathe… Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753295373-925NO8N31A0RIMQ4V12J/chakras.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - Step 4: Get creative, know your intentions Okay here is where you have to use your own creativity, your own mind. Depending on your intention, you will use these things differently. See if you can find a way to relate your intention to each of the elements and each of the chakras. In some types of sex magic, we relate our goal to each chakra in some way, see overview of chakras above and think “how would each chakra help this goal if it were balanced and empowered?” and also think “how would achieving this goal empower this chakra” Example: If I were making more money, I would feel safe. (1st chakra), I would have the financial freedom to be creative rather than reactive in my business (2nd chakra), I would feel confident enough to turn down clients I don’t like in favor of those that inspire me (3rd chakra), I would feel passion for my work because I won’t be working with people just for money (4th chakra), I would be able to speak my truth and live more authentically when working creatively with people I enjoy (5th chakra), I would have time to clear my mind of worry allowing me to slow down and see the opportunities around me (6thth chakra), If I am able to align and empower all of my lower chakras I can achieve consciousness, be present ( 7th chakra). This is a vague example, and you should really figure yours out on your own. Feel it and envision it when you do it. Now set out to honor each of the chakras while also honoring all of the elements. How can the element of Fire help you? Look at the overview of the Fire element, which of those if any will serve you? How about water, earth, air? Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667753321077-119O7C9LAFAJ6GFPK3AG/woman-g80b58ae37_1920.jpg Blog - Lunar Eclipse Ritual - Putting it all together Many things work together so you don’t have to do 100 things for this ritual. Taking a bath with candles and music is multiple elements already and feeds multiple chakras. Dancing with music while singing is Air, throat, hearing. Burn incense and candles at the same time and you have added smell and fire. Add a beautiful dress or luxurious clothing and you have earth and touch. Do all of this around a bonfire and you are a witch (just kidding) Hopefully this makes sense for you. When I work with clients, I know the client and I know their goal so I can design this session for them, and I use my energy to help fuel their outcome. It is impossible for me to make this post personal to each person so it may feel vague, but if you want to make a real change in your life then put some actual intent and energy behind it. The universe notices. Someday when I have time, I will put this into a workbook/download. If anyone out there is creative and wants to do it for me, email me. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/ephemerallove monthly 0.5 2022-11-01 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1667246565700-KL1BYS4KVZLUYZCA8JKE/IMG_8171.jpg Blog - Can Love Be Ephemeral? I had a client text me the other day after reading the post “Is Sex Superficial?” I don't know if his questions were prompted by the post itself or the discussion in the comments on Facebook afterwards. He had 2 questions 1. Can love be ephemeral and 2. Are folks like candles where sometimes they light other people (in regards to love). I'm going to try to answer both. Of course, this is only in my opinion and in my experience with myself and hundreds of clients that I work with. I told him that in simple terms the answers would be yes and yes, but that I needed to write out a long answer so I would make it a blog post. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/issexsuperficial monthly 0.5 2022-11-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1666915603629-YOAKMSRC6M2L8FHWRSXP/31.png Blog - Is sex superficial? Is Sex Superficial? This was the topic of a session in Atlanta recently and it has been on my mind ever since. I have worked with hundreds of people and if I am being honest, I cannot disagree that most people experience sex on a completely superficial level. How did we get to the point where the most intimate energetic and physical connection became so meaningless? I have a theory. First, let me say that I fully support casual sex between consenting adults. I do, however, think that even if you are not in a committed relationship or if you are not in love with your partner, you can still experience sex in the energy of love and connection. Sex is a powerful force and can stimulate powerful sensations in the body. Sometimes that is the only time people feel anything in a society where we are all essentially numb with medication, alcohol, sugar (drugs), cortisol (stress) and more than anything, fear. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-7 monthly 0.5 2022-09-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661643209118-YI4R2M2Z85M0YAA4VXNB/Yoni-Massage.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 7 - This may initially feel extremely awkward, but stay with me. Most people, both men and women do not actually really know what the pussy looks like or how to identify its parts. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-6 monthly 0.5 2022-09-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661642795896-2EHK8IXOKW8152REJCAX/scent-1431053_960_720.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 6 - For this idea, you simply want to stimulate each of your senses. If you can find ways to stimulate them more than once, in multiple ways without overload, that is better. Be careful not to overwhelm all of the senses at once or you may shut down and not really get anything out of it, or you may find it painful. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-5 monthly 0.5 2022-09-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661642598117-Q8GWCEGXYK5AGSJ61O8O/striptease-6473647_960_720.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 5 - How to Give a Strip Tease Since you just worked with vulnerability you may be ready to take it a bit further and really expose yourself. Try a strip tease routine either by yourself or for your partner. You can start by just doing it alone in a room, maybe take the next step by performing in front of a mirror, as if dancing for yourself. Then when and if you are ready, do it for your partner. If you feel particularly sexy by the end of this, maybe record yourself doing the strip tease for the camera and send bits and pieces of it to your partner throughout the day and build the anticipation for the final show in the evening. This Masterclass Article shows How to Give a Striptease in 8 Steps. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-4 monthly 0.5 2022-09-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661642361512-7A9KJ7IGXVPAFF3MJ7JN/woman-2333262_1920.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 4 - Being vulnerable in your interactions motivates more intimacy and a greater deal of trust. One thing that I practice with a select few of my clients is a heart-opening exercise where we expand our chest and simultaneously expose our throats. This is a very vulnerable position, but it signals to your body that you fully trust the partner in the room with you. If you take the time to really move slowly with this and take time to breathe into the heart from this position, you will feel any number of sensations and for my emotions. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-3 monthly 0.5 2022-09-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661641702952-STLWC0KVUIYIMVCZE5UM/yoga-2800344_960_720.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 3 - Benefits of Naked Yoga I cannot actually speak to the benefits of Naked Yoga, so please follow this link to read what Jennifer Kries says about the 5 Reasons Why You’ll Love Naked Yoga https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-2 monthly 0.5 2022-09-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661641378118-HC72NYEQ6PIK58IGM2R5/dance-7247907_960_720.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality -Day 2 - What is Sensual Movement and how can it enhance my life? Sensual movement is a dance form that is meant for ALL people, at ANY age and fitness level. It is an incredibly effective tool for reconnecting to your body, sensuality power, and purpose . According to The Alt Feminine, Sensual movement slows us down and opens us to a deep knowledge that we all process- but sometimes can’t access. When we begin to move and connect to our bodies we also unlock “stuck” parts of our lives, heal old wounds and feel more health and joy! https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7-days-of-sensuality-1 monthly 0.5 2022-09-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1661562272124-X4ZYOKTJJ5ME9HV3NHJL/13.jpg Blog - 7 Days of Sensuality-Day 1 - Sensuality vs Sexuality Sensuality is the ability to enjoy our senses: smell, sight, touch, taste, and hearing to the fullest. Sensual things make us feel physically good, be it delicious food, sunrises, massages…you name it! Sensuality and sexuality concepts are connected, but not the same thing. According to the Cambridge dictionary, sensuality is the expression of physical (especially sexual) pleasure or satisfaction. Sexuality can be sensual but is not necessarily sensual. Even though sensuality boosts your sexuality, it goes beyond the bedroom. It is about paying attention to your five senses and deriving pleasure from the experiences. It is more of being in the present and taking in life around you. Sensuality is a mindset and not entirely about sex. Experience this in my Awaken Your Senses session. Sensuality teaches you to slow down and indulge in the beauty of life. To be present to enjoy the subtle and the mundane ecstasy of life. It reminds you that you are human and that everything that’s around you can be erotic. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/sexualcleanse monthly 0.5 2022-10-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1659656179515-YZ9LU0M5BMLVOMMVT2TU/people-g5c96d0668_1920.jpg Blog - How I Do a Sexual Cleanse Sexual intercourse is one of the most vital and powerful life forces and forms of energy. It has the capacity to change the trajectory of life. Sexual intercourse can cause a powerful shift – positive or negative in our lives depending on the kind of energy that we absorb. When we have sex, whether it’s during a one-night, stand or within the context of a long term relationship, we are uniting all parts of ourselves. Our mind, body, spirit and soul. Our energies are intertwining to create powerful sexual energetic connection. This sexual energy cord creates long lasting soul ties that can become forever embedded within the mind, body and spirit and keep us attached to an individual AND every individual he or she has ever had sex with if the energy is not cleansed. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/iamawoman monthly 0.5 2022-08-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1659567401329-47AE85DYOXD36H5U90M4/Untitled+design+%281%29.png Blog - I Am A Woman That Has Hurt Men I am a woman that has hurt men. I own that. I didn’t always know clearly what I wanted in my life, and I wasn’t always self-aware enough to see the way my actions could hurt someone, sometimes I did, but I was selfish. I wasn’t always strong enough to walk away from something I wanted when it wasn’t working. Men are not the only ones in the world hurting relationships and hurting their partners. Men aren’t the only cheaters or liars. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/injuredorpain monthly 0.5 2022-07-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1659304175755-52NGHLIFDWEP13Y2QL5C/tears-g516fce8d3_1920.jpg Blog - Are you injured or are you just in pain? I have spent a lot of my life heavily involved in fitness and one thing I always asked myself during the many, many difficult workouts was “Am I injured or am I just in pain?” I know that some will argue my point here at least as it pertains to fitness and the physical body, and I encourage you to get to know your body, but I believe that pain is usually first in your mind, and it shows up at the edge of your comfort zone. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/specialforces monthly 0.5 2022-07-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1650396365181-YK8RMXDC3ATRX9SPF10U/army-g27f430d75_1920.jpg Blog - How my Special Forces Clients use Tantra - When I first started this business, I really thought my clientel would be 60-70 yr old men dealing with erectile dysfunction. Although I had been practicing Tantra since I was in my very early 20s, I had not met another person who used Tantra until much later in my life when I began taking formal trainings. I had always used Tantra for sexual satisfaction, I won’t lie. I didn’t even realize there was another use for it until I did my 15 months of abstinence back in 2014-2015 ish. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/penis-disconnect monthly 0.5 2022-06-06 https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/healingtrauma monthly 0.5 2022-06-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1645934766492-ONXJHMH7K41Z5X8E1MLL/spa-gc6e4955ca_1920.jpg Blog - How Tantric Massage Heals Sexual Trauma Among the many benefits of practicing tantra, tantric healing may be the most powerful—specifically when it comes to healing from sexual trauma. Tantra practitioners believe that everything is connected. Nothing exists independently, and we are all one. Tantra helps us experience this interconnection. We make the unconscious conscious. The body stores suppressed emotions and sensations. It is a burden that influences our day-to-day interactions with others. Tantric healing can release suppressed emotions and sensations. The body can start to relax and feel safe. The door is open to experience connection, freedom, and pleasure practices you can use. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/solotantra monthly 0.5 2022-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1644034202962-2YBX0BVF0GSVLWXW2UE5/15.jpg Blog - Solo Tantric Practices Tantra is typically associated with relationships and sex here in the West. Yet, tantra is much more than that. It is a spiritual and mystical practice that starts with the Self. That’s why you don’t need a partner to practice tantra, it’s about your relationship with yourself. In this article, I will discuss how tantra can work in a relationship of one. How to Practice Tantra Solo Tantra is a very personal experience where you reconnect with the whole aspect of yourself. It is believed that each human being exists not in isolation, but in interconnectedness with all other matter in the Universe. The way to discover this is to explore our own body and practice presence. Conscious breathing, conscious use of the senses, and conscious movements are all tantric solo practices. Follow me on Instagram for more solo and partner practices you can use. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/tantraandmasturbation monthly 0.5 2022-02-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1638472959407-0PTAL53REDCM4NRP2HHD/9.jpg Blog - Practice Tantric Sex with Masturbation If you are interested in Tantra and crave the feeling of sexual energy running through your body, you don’t need to wait for a partner. If there is one thing that Tantra teaches us it is that we are whole, we are all connected, we are all one. That, to me, means that I already have everything I need all on my own. When I first started practicing Tantra, I didn’t know the word Tantra, I didn’t know there was a name, I didn’t label it, I simply tuned in to my body and recognized where and how I felt pleasure and then I explored that. Back then, it very often was through masturbation. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/howmanyyears monthly 0.5 2021-12-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1638413514742-BQ5S1LMQ6DQ0R0MBYVEY/25.png Blog - How Many Years of Sex Life Do You Have Left? (At the time that I wrote this it was immediately after a session I had, but it is being posted months after.) I had a session earlier tonight that prompted this post. It was not unlike tons of conversations I have had where clients tell me about their "sexual issues” and then follow up with “I'm older now” or “probably age-related” and I find out they are 40-45-50. Seriously? Do you know how much sex life you have left at age 50? 25 to 35 years! Yes, I am serious here. Your voice is powerful and your belief that your sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction is normal after 40 is total bullshit. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/whybondage monthly 0.5 2024-05-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1637179487481-86PKYIHDYM5EACOZM11Z/17copy.jpg Blog - So, Why Is Bondage so Sexy? Why do people like being restrained? Years ago, I was a hard NO with all things BDSM. I didn’t understand it. I thought it was all about some asshole trying to control me. I thought the subs were damaged somehow, I was VERY ignorant and very judgmental. But as with most things in my life, I recognized that having such a strong reaction to something that is consensual and doesn’t have anything to do with me is a sign that I could benefit from some shadow work. I certainly do not claim to be an expert in any way regarding BDSM, but I did spend a couple of years reading about it and talking with REAL DOMS. Not the idiots on POF or the kink sites. I talked to and read writings written by subs. Suddenly I just started to get it. There is so much power in surrender. And it requires so much trust. I personally only like small amounts of pain, but I completely get that too. I will save that for a different post. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/thedownside monthly 0.5 2021-11-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1633707426858-R3XKQX2R6NTISOA7FOHY/4.jpg Blog - Is There A Downside To Tantra? I talk constantly about the amazing benefits of Tantra. The ability to control your sexual energy, last longer in bed, experience full body orgasms, connect with your partner for mind altering sex, and feeling connected day to day in the mundane aspects of your life. But is there a downside? Yes. If you are using tantra only for sexual pleasure, you will quickly see the downside. I don’t see it often, but I have seen it personally and even experienced it with a former partner. If you do manage to experience a full conscious connection with a sexual partner, you will absolutely strive to reach that again. It is mind altering. I once overheard an ex describing tantric sex as better than any drug he’s ever done. Think about that. If you are experiencing next level sex that feels better than any drug you’ve ever done, do you think there might be a risk of addiction? Absolutely. If used irresponsibly. So how do we avoid that? First, most people will never put in the consistent mindful work it takes to get to this level of conscious connection or energetic control so it will never really become an issue. If you do get to this level of control over your sexual energy, use it for more than sex. Use it for more than sex, use it in every area of your life. If you don’t, you risk staying with toxic partners only for sex. Keep your eyes open with your partners as well. Maybe you are well-rounded and living Tantra fully, but if you engage with partners who are singularly focused, you risk having toxic partners become obsessed with you. As with all things, if you find balance and listen to your gut, you will experience pleasure, connection, and peace with tantra. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/tildeath3 monthly 0.5 2021-10-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1626205007576-JBNHCWITZZX2WXB9W2NY/man-2933984_1920.jpg Blog - ‘Til Death - Part III - Walking Away In part 1 of this series, I gave my thoughts on commitment and ‘Til Death Do Us Part, in Part II, I had intended to discuss a way out, but many people wanted examples of the agreement I was referring to. I am not sure I did a great job showing examples because it is really such an individual thing. For me, it will be fairly simple. For some, it really needs to be much more detailed. So what happens when you have been married for 20 years, you are not happy with your current situation, recognize that you are no longer growing individually or as a couple, and then realize you have 40 years of life left? What do you do? Don’t just sit back and wish you had thought of this sooner. It is not too late to take a look at where you go from here. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/healtrauma monthly 0.5 2021-07-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1625343457757-GFWXFN94V8WAREXTU3UA/relaxation-684716_1920.jpg Blog - Can Tantric Massage Heal Trauma? Trauma impacts every area of our life. For the sake of this conversation, trauma is defined not as the event that happened to you, but rather, the disruption of your state as a result of what happened to you. It impacts health, happiness, relationships, and even our careers. We tend to associate trauma with major events, but truthfully, many of us probably have some level of trauma stored in our body. Modern life is inherently traumatizing, but trauma is also passed down through generations. This can be in our genetics actually. Your body truly is your unconscious mind. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/tildeath2 monthly 0.5 2021-07-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1625057233925-VZO2JHT7XLCKGZIPZQZT/couple-5566208_1920.jpg Blog - ‘Til Death - Part II - A Commitment Agreement If you are going to enter into a sacred relationship and you truly view it as sacred, then why not spend some time really making sure that your values align? In my opinion, the reason that people avoid this type of conversation is their fear of what they might discover. Some believe that love conquers all, it doesn’t. It absolutely is not enough. In the next part I am going to talk about what happens when you are no longer growing and your paths have clearly come to an end together. A loving way out. That one will be posted in a couple of days. What Is A Commitment Agreement? A Commitment agreement or relationship agreement is an agreement that spells out specifically, the terms of your commitment. It does not need to be written down or signed, but I would highly encourage it. The best thing about it is that it sparks honest conversation. And while it is not legally binding, people are more thoughtful before they sign something and will not likely do so without honest discussions. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/tildeathdouspart monthly 0.5 2021-06-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1624906961458-DV9DPT1X4IYTE5SEXZO6/chains-19176_1920.jpg Blog - Why I Disagree with ‘Til Death Do Us Part- Part I - Here's the thing about till death do us part. It's a total cop out for the person who's requiring it, and for the person who's accepting the requirement. I am not referring to marriage, I am referring to a vow of “til death do us part”. I am of the opinion that you are either growing or you're dying. If your relationship is in a place where one of you is refusing to grow or to participate in the growth of the other or of the relationship, why should one be required to stay there and wither away? https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/nerds monthly 0.5 2021-07-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1622726841159-2L13JFOEIUTCS9I5A8MM/woman-3355953_1920.jpg Blog - Let’s Talk About Nerds Both Ladies and Gentleman, if you have never been confusingly, wickedly attracted to a nerd before then you are just not truly awake. In my last post I mentioned that I am insanely attracted to masculine, confident men. (also tall). But people close to me know that I get “hooked” on nerds. I won’t go into the embarrassing details of it. Let me just tell you why you should be looking at nerds. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/whatissexy monthly 0.5 2021-05-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1622143204629-NH3R3PBYQZI88BCQG9X6/20190619_143920.jpg Blog - What Makes Someone Sexy? - Someone said to me recently, via Messenger, “you are sexy as hell, and what is sexier is that you know it” (thanks R..). My response was, “sexy is many things, much of which is just how you feel around someone” and I added that he just inspired a blog post. So if sexy is a feeling, then where does it come from? What is sexy? What makes someone else sexy? Why are some people sexy to you, but not to other people? Is sexy the same for you across the board? I hope you will share with me on my page, I am going to share with you my opinions and also that of some of my friends. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/3thingsamazingsexpartnersneverdo monthly 0.5 2021-05-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1620672212575-JXM399BRDAAZJKJINDAL/nude-6225541_1920.jpg Blog - 3 Things Amazing Sex Partners NEVER do - This topic has been burning my brain lately. I had a few months of being both very busy and very stressed out. I did kind of withdraw from all things social and most things in general that were not work related. Since my work depends on me being healthy and having good energy, it is more important than ever to take care of myself above all else. I am not willing to give the little free time I have away to others, regardless of how that makes them feel. I am not sure I could count the number of times that I was told that I just need some good sex or had offers to provide me with the stress relief in the form of “amazing” sex. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/experiencetantra monthly 0.5 2021-03-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1615939555031-DUQU1U3JSPPRY67TKEB1/dainis-graveris-SPx5gUVMD6M-unsplash.jpg Blog - Experience Tantra - Experience Tantra Even though I have a website with a full page dedicated to explaining Tantra, I am asked over and over to explain Tantra. I understand. It is virtually impossible to put into words. It is an experience, a state of being. This is not a prayer or a meditation. It is an active practice of sensual stimulation with sound, sight, touch, smell, movement, music, visualization, and honoring the divine in all things. It is about being fully present and bringing this into our daily, mundane experiences. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/sexualityisfluid monthly 0.5 2021-03-16 https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/mythicalpleasure monthly 0.5 2021-02-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1614212603315-M7Z9JSGFT695RVSOXEB3/received_1173370252831784.jpeg Blog - Mythical Pleasure I rarely generalize to the point of assuming I know what “most” people feel, experience, want, etc., but I have a strong belief that most people live their lives in a state of disconnect. Disconnected from the true depth of sensitivity of our physical bodies. I’m sure there are a variety of reasons for this, but in my opinion, it is primarily due to religious and societal programming. From a very young age, we learn to suppress the desires of the body and to follow the thinking mind. How many times did you find yourself in trouble as a child for acting on impulse? Your parents would say “think”.. or “what were you thinking?” or otherwise make you feel stupid. You were a child so it makes perfect sense that you just went with your gut and did what felt right. I am not saying that parents should not teach boundaries and decision-making skills, I am just trying to demonstrate a point that instinctively the majority of parents teach children to use their brain and thought to make decisions rather than their feelings or their instincts.. We have conditioned our sexual selves not to be very open. It is a lot of pressure to not express your sexual self freely. In General, society is not ok with eroticism and in response, many people develop a high level of disconnect from their naked bodies or their genitalia. We don’t even teach kids the real names for their genitals for fuck’s sake (or is it fuck sake?). It’s truly sad because our bodies are full of sensuality and we have an incredible ability to feel pleasure! We are robbing ourselves of pleasure when we’re in a state of shame, guilt, or embarrassment about our bodies. And even worse, we have conditioned ourselves and our partners that their fantasies are shameful. Now we can’t even TALK about it, much less express it. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/releasinghate monthly 0.5 2021-02-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1613932540295-LT94PHDTL53ANV4JCU0K/women-2107352_1920.jpg Blog - Why Do I Stay? -Releasing Hate & Anger Continuing with the series Why do I Stay, I am fortunate to have a wiser power because I did not think it was time to post this one. I created it to be next in line, but then thinking back to my own journey, I didn’t feel the timing was right for where I started the series. Luckily I have a good handle on my intuition in relation to other people so for whoever it is that is ready for this and needs this right now, I hear you, I feel you asking for it. It is up to you to use it, and to use it ritualistically. The thing about hate and anger is that they aren’t real emotions, they are a reaction to pain, a stage of grief. Pain is a reaction to an expectation that was not met. It doesn’t make them any less important and you should absolutely feel what you feel without judging yourself for it. Then at some point, before you become a life long victim, do something to stop the pain. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/dissectingaconversation monthly 0.5 2021-02-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1613760710906-GYR8MCLGIAARYJWX50B5/man-4393964_1920.jpg Blog - Why Do I Stay? -Dissecting A Mundane Conversation with a Narcissist After being married to one narcissist and then in a committed connection with another, I can spot the red flags and gaslighting VERY quickly now and have no problem removing them from my life. The thing about narcissists are that they are so clever and pre-conditioned to the manipulation that it is absolutely done through the mundane. You often won’t realize it hit you for months, or years even. I am going to dissect a mundane conversation with a narcissist for you, watch this.. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1613760104470-TQHNCH3FFB5IU8NYTLDC/20210219_133948.jpg Blog - Why Do I Stay? -Dissecting A Mundane Conversation with a Narcissist - Facts: This is a REAL conversation and the screen shot of text messages will indicate that they did have plans and in fact he asked her if she wanted to get together on Monday, then asked if she wanted dinner Monday. It was a very real plan for Monday. Let’s dissect what was really happening. Her at 1pm on Monday: Hey, what are you up to? (She has not heard from him yet today, and is unsure if they still have plans- He wants her to be unsure and he wants her to approach him about this) Him: Not much, I am going to go take my son to hang out with friends. (He is demonstrating that he has not thought about her or the plans at all, she will likely feel a little hurt by this, and then question if she had mixed up the plans) https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/whydoistay monthly 0.5 2021-02-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1613676032486-CLJNHX2G17FI6NBE0DLA/suicide-5127103_1920.jpg Blog - Why Do I Stay? Hands down, my most requested service is from women asking for help to break free from a toxic relationship. Without exception, the first contact with me comes while they are still engaging with the partner, answering their calls, and responding to texts. Also with very few exceptions, the woman is not the one choosing to end it, but WISHES she was making the decision. This is an addiction, like any drug. Be very real with yourself, you ARE getting something out of this. What is it feeding in you? What is it numbing in you? What is it waking up in you? I am going to begin a series of exercises and rituals for those who are in this spot. Why? Because I am not letting you hire me from this spot. It is a total waste of money. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/5tipsforbettersex monthly 0.5 2021-02-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1613427810115-Y6SRBLHSDYKU57DLFUCY/people-2589817_1920.jpg Blog - 5 Tips for Better Sex I recently started seeing someone new, it was over before it started, but that is not the point. The point is that it could have been amazing. We were very physically and sexually attracted to each other. It was convenient and would have been very easy to just jump into a sexual relationship with him, but it was one of the few times that I saw a real potential for a tantric connection. It is pretty rare for me to meet anyone that I want to spend that kind of time or energy on. In this case, he approached me first about Tantra which is probably why I believed he was interested. Long story short, he wasn’t and I was left disappointed. I can find good sexual partners easily, I really wanted to find something exceptional. Which this could have been with very little effort. We live in a world of instant gratification and at the same time a world full of people that are not sexually satisfied. If someone told you that you could change your experience with just a little effort and patience, and once changed, it would be changed forever, would you do it? Would you at least try? My friend was a pass on that and it is a shame in my opinion. But for me, I am not settling. I’m pretty well taken care of in the good sex department. But I just don’t want that anymore. Sex is sacred to me and I am looking for something exceptional. For those of you that wish to try, I’m going to give you 5 tips for better sex. Before I start, let me answer the most common question I get. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/moonrituals monthly 0.5 2022-08-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1612831729379-3HQJH8YAAP42HQ6CS0FE/woman-2724966_1920.jpg Blog - Creating Moon Rituals I have had so many requests to share my Full Moon and New moon rituals. Rather than give a step by step of my personal rituals, I created a very basic e-book that will allow you to create your own rituals. I have been practicing and developing my rituals for years and I include some elements that may not be for everyone. I will share them in upcoming podcasts moving forward. Download the e-book below, no email address needed. PS> I am not even close to being a qualified astrologer so I recommend you follow my personal astrologer Holly Segur for detailed information about the moon and the planets. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7spiritualways4 monthly 0.5 2021-02-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1610839517836-N93MCSJZ2A96PFWKW886/dainis-graveris-CLak8iuwpkY-unsplash.jpg Blog - 7 Spiritual Ways to Have Better Sex- Part IV Finally, part 4 of the series wraps up with the 6th and 7th Chakras and their role in relationships and better sex. 6th Chakra- Use your Intuition Have you ever had a random idea to try something different in relation to your sexual experience, but then in the moment didn’t follow through? Did you get the idea to decorate the bedroom before your partner arrived? Have you considered stopping at the store for some oils or a toy, but then suddenly began over thinking your partner’s possible reaction so you didn’t bother? This is your inner voice saying to you here's an idea. Just listen to it. If you are seeking ways and how to improve your sex life then you must open up to the ideas you have inside, do not let shame keep you from exploring your intuitive ideas. Learn to listen to that voice. Don't shut it down. If you are so fearful of talking to your partner about your desires, that is a different issue altogether. But here we are talking about all of those times that we do not act on our instincts and intuition. This problem is in the 3rd eye Chakra which controls our intuition and our wisdom. This chakra gives us the ability to see beyond what is physically present in the moment. When this chakra is blocked or has weak energy flow we can feel confusion and it can become difficult to connect with our partner. This causes sex to become a completely physical act. You won’t feel it in any area other than the genitals. If you are experiencing sex strictly in your genitals, you are not having amazing sex. When sex is amazing, you experience something throughout your whole being. Your physical, emotional and spiritual being are all involved in the act when sex is great. Connect with your intuition. As a result you’re better able to connect with your partner on an unemotional plane. This leads to better sex. When there is an intimacy between partners the door is open for more fulfilling sexual activity. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7spiritualways3 monthly 0.5 2021-01-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1610583755310-KX7EOFU9S9AEI0CDF9SU/boudoir-4669610_1920.jpg Blog - 7 Spiritual Ways to Have Better Sex- Part III In the first two parts of 7 Spiritual Ways to have Better Sex we talked about the importance of a healthy sex life and we looked at the First 3 Chakras and their role in sexuality. Today we will look at how the 4th and 5th Chakras can be cleared to help you have great sex. 4th Chakra - Love Unconditionally Okay, I can hear the objections already. How does someone that supports casual sex, one night stands, friends with benefits.. claim that loving unconditionally is a requirement of great sex? Think a little differently about the word love if you are referring to those situations. Think of love for other human beings, love for the experience they are bringing to you, be judgment free. If you cannot do this, perhaps you just shouldn’t invite this person to your bed. Or at least accept that you aren’t having the best sex you could be having. In terms of relationships, I would like you to remove the programmed thoughts that place expectations on your partner. If he loves me then he would know this, If he loves me he would not want that. If she loved me she would behave this way, if she loved me she would want sex as much as I do. Some men take their wives for granted and expect them to always be available for sex. Some women refrain from having sex with her husbands as a punishment when he does not fulfil her demands. This is not love. If you use sex as currency, you are definitely not having the best sex you could be having. These problem lie in the heart chakra, this regulates our capacity to love. The heart chakra is located in the chest at the breastbone. When this chakra is blocked you may develop a fear of love. You hesitate loving somebody because you cannot even love yourself fully. When this happens sex becomes a chore, not a gesture of love. Passion disappears and so does satisfaction. To create flow in this chakra, open your heart space. This is probably the most difficult suggestion I will give you. Can you have amazing sex without this, yes, can you have your best sexual experience without it? No. To maximize your sex life you must love from deep within your heart. Love yourself first. Learn self-love and then you will be able to love your partner better on whatever level that love is for the two of you. This opens doors for passionate sex. https://www.brendakipling.com/blog/7spiritualways2 monthly 0.5 2021-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1610491587389-C7GR00H6A0ZTBIBZ6OE9/dainis-graveris-N8VX4iMIxnM-unsplash.jpg Blog - 7 Spiritual Ways to Have Better Sex- Part II In part one of 7 Spiritual Ways to have Better Sex we talked about the importance of a healthy sex life and we looked at the 1st Chakra’s role in sexuality. Today we will look at how the 2nd and 3rd Chakra’s can impact your ability to have great sex. 2nd Chakra - Accept your sexuality freely and stop feeling shameful One of the biggest problems, especially among women, is that they feel shameful of their sexuality. They are conditioned to feel this way. Even men at times feel guilty when they indulge in a sexual act. Why? As long as mutual consent is involved you are doing nothing wrong. Sex is a completely natural and spiritual thing to do. The problem of shame lies in the sacral chakra. This is our 2nd chakra, which regulates the sex organs. The sacral chakra lies between the navel and the 1st chakra. This chakra can become erratic when you are feeling guilty and shameful related to sex acts. Only when you accept your sexuality will you be able to have truly divine sex. If you are struggling with shame, guilt, etc. It would benefit you to work through the shame and guilt in order to find the root cause. Is it something you can let go of? Is it really in line with your soul beliefs? Did something legitimately happen that you need to forgive yourself for or is this simply conditioning? 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We can heal our sexuality and feel fully alive. The issue with making sex taboo is that our sex drive is really our life force the energy. It nourishes our sexual desires, which are not awful they are great. When we repress this vitality because of religious, familial, or lawful restrictions, it really reduces our yearning to live. It transforms us. We lose our joy. Something within us disappears. Tantra says that this force of energy that comes of this sexual desire and our need for fulfillment, is essential and that we must not fear it we should express it without reservation. This frequently raises fears of individuals running wild, exercising a wide range of unethical and illegal activities, but that is pure ignorance. Tantra encourages you to listen to your calling. With divine direction we’re able to express this life energy in many positive ways. https://www.brendakipling.com/clearingconsensualpartners daily 0.75 2020-11-27 https://www.brendakipling.com/energyhealing daily 0.75 2024-05-17 https://www.brendakipling.com/additional-steps daily 0.75 2020-12-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1607130716335-FUSU12U37NZYAQA5MN9Y/people-2576776_1280.jpg Additional Steps Water is one of the best ways to balance your energy and by adding some additional ingredients you can clear negative energy and wash it down the drain. A great addition to your bath is a natural salt such as Pink Himalayan or Epsom salt. You can add Baking Soda for both physical and energetic benefits. Another excellent option is essential oils, but make sure you know what oil you are using and why (and make sure it is safe for contact with skin). https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1607130016761-UKQNLS8LM99MSG3WICQI/flames-3250789_1280.jpg Additional Steps - A frequent way I use fire is to write down what I want to release on a small piece of parchment paper (of simulated by ripping up brown packaging paper from the dollar store). Using a set of tongs and a fire safe/fire proof receptacle (I purchased mine at a thrift store), I hold the paper with tongs and light it using a long-nosed lighter. Let it burn in the container. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fb1b0d64afda27e9c68026c/1607130542266-V3YGM2R3EQ8WGRG60KZ9/happy-72201_1280.jpg Additional Steps Dancing is a natural energy mover. Any kind of dancing will suffice. My daughter and I had a few dance parties when she was very young, It was exhausting and fun. 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This type of work cannot be done in one or two sessions. I know that some practitioners will do one or two 5 or 6 hour session, I will not do that. It takes time to create trust and connection between us for the best result and to work through practices at home before moving to the next step. Part of the reason that I require the consultation first is to be sure we are on the same page with expectation of the process. I will guide you through a progressive process beginning with talking through past experiences, fears, anxieties, and desires. Quite often this is the first opportunity you have to talk through your desires, the length of time and methods used to process this will vary and be dependant upon my read of your energy around the desire as we work through them. We talk through intentions, consent, boundaries and expectations at the beginning of each session. 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